My boyfriend and I have been dating since earlier this year. He was married for close to 4 years and left his wife for me after about a month of seeing eachother. They have a son who will be four this month. Since he’s left, he’s given her most of his paycheck to cover the majority of their 3,000.00 dollars a month worth of bills to pay for the mortage, utilities, child and the car he just bought that she drives. That is basically his whole full time paycheck and we just found out we’re pregnant 2 months ago. We’ve been trying to keep it quiet until he got the divorce mediations under way but she found out and he told her last week and she has threatened to take full physical custody. He is devestated because he is a great father who’s been supporting his son and while doing that, supporting her because she is staying in their house. She has yet to find a second job because her full time job doesn’t make half of what he does. In the state of Massachusetts, I didn’t really think unless there is an absurd reason why the court wouldn’t grant shared physical custody. Besides working as a police officer and for the government, he has plenty of people who would support him. He isn’t looking for full physical custody because he doesn’t want to take her away from him because she isn’t a bad mother. Some of her actions during this whole time have been questionable and solidfy evidence that she’s a whack job. He can’t afford a lawyer really because he’s paying for her to live and her parents probably can’t afford her lawyer. What possibly would the courts bring up to say he shoudln’t have joint custody?

I have met someone and I am still married. I told her on the second date and she has agreed to see my Platonic until I can take care of my business. She has been hurt by married men in the past and fell in love with a guy who never told her he was married and doesn’t want to get hurt again. She says there can be no us until I take care of my business. My wife is still living with me, We fight but she refuses to leave. She has charged up thousands of dollars in credit card debt and refuses to have anything physically to do with me. We sleep in the same bed but there has not been any *** in about two years. Since I lost my full time job, my wife yells at me and nags and is very abusive. I supported her for three years when she lost her job. What is allowed as far as having a friendship while I am still married. There is no *** with this girl. She told me not to tell my wife about her because she does not want to get involved in my divorce in any way. She is not a lawyer but says that in our state, Massachusetts, there is a 90 day probation period after the divorce is finalized in case the divorced couple wants to reconcile.
If I see this girl Platonic, can my wife and her lawyer sue me for infidelity? Is a lunch or dinner date with a member of the opposite *** be grounds for adultery? Can I move in with this woman once I get a legal separation from my wife? I have been trying for two years to get my wife to work out our problems. My wife has repeatedly refused marriage counseling and denies there is any problems with our marriage and yet she has lists of things wrong with me and insists that I change.
This weekend I told her to go home to her parents and get out of the house. She refused to leave and apologized for her behavior.
Since I lost my full time job, I work a part time job and a temporary job to make ends meet. My wife works full time and we are both covered under her health plan. I have felt trapped in a bad marriage since I lost my job.
A month ago, in one of our fights, I told her that she really needs to cut down on charging up the credit cards on purses. One purse, a Burberry, was over three hundred dollars. She told me if I didn’t like what she does with her charges to find someone else.
So I did find someone else on line. We have been seeing each other for a month. There is great chemistry with this new woman and we are both hot for each other but she is scared of what my wife could do legally and drag her into the divorce as the other woman.