so here is the deal i am 16 my boyfriend is 17, and i am 7 months pregnant. My dad got a job offer to move to Massachusetts and get paid double of what he is now. we live in Indiana right now. Well i think my dad is going to take the job which means him, my mom and sisters are going to move up there. I am most likely going to move in with my boyfriend and his family which is pretty much my family. Then after he is born i am going to get a job and me and my boyfriend are going to get an apartment. I am on probation and will be getting off December 17th. Will my probation officer make me stay in school, or can i tell her i am going to get my GED and she will let me do that?? Or if i tell her i am moving with my family can she let me off early?

please no rude answers.

So.
My dad has always been an abusive alcoholic. He’s hit me and verbally abused me if I didn’t give him my money to support his addiction. He’s even called me “sexually attractive” on more than one occasion, but has said he doesn’t see any problems with his actions.

My mother is aware of all of this.
They divorced in August 2007.

He lives in an RV about an hour away from my mother and I.
My mother and I continue live in the same 1,500 sq.ft. house in the southwest side of Houston, TX. We’ve lived here since 1994.

Since August 2007 my father has frequently visited my mother and I.
He usually comes on weekends.

I don’t want to have any sort of contact with him at all.
I’ve told that to my mother several times over the years, but she never seems to do anything about that.

My father has been in and out of rehab for several years, but has never remained sober for more than three months.

As a consequence of growing up with an alcoholic father, I developed mild OCD, slight anxiety, and I can’t seem to get close to people/I have trouble trusting people because of the constant disapointments and manipulations from my father.

I am from Boston, Massachusetts.
I was born there in 1993 and lived in Quincy (city just south of Boston)
before moving to Houston, as said, in 1994.
I consider Boston home, not just because of all the bad memories of my father in Houston, it’s because everytime I go up to visit New England, it just feels like home.
I feel more at home in Boston than I ever did in Houston.

That being said, I want to move to Boston. (Well, Brookline/Newton since I’m still in high school)
The reason is pretty obvious.
I want to move on with my life.
I don’t want to keep re-living the dark memories that have haunted me for so long… that still continue to haunt me actually.
I want a fresh start.
I know it isn’t easy, however.

My mom just lost her job at American Express travel agency.
She has looked, but wasn’t able to find a job in Boston nor here in Houston.

My mom says she’s tired of my father and the choices he continues to make, but still continues to talk to him daily over the phone and he comes over on Saturdays now to visit.

I don’t see him.
I sleep whenever he comes over.
I haven’t talked to him in over two months.
I’m proud of myself that I have made small steps to move on.
My mother hasn’t, obviously.

But it’s hard to move on with your life when your mother still continues to have contact with someone you ****.

I don’t want to be this bitter person.
I want to be happy.

So, my question is, what should I do to convince my mother to stop communicating with my father and move to Massachusetts in order to move on with our lives.

[I have asked and no my mother does not love/ is not in love with my father]
[I appoligize for such a long post]

To make a long story short: My husband recently got out of the Navy. We traveled all over and thought it would be nice to move back to our home state of New York. By us I mean our 2 year old son, and me and husband.

Well we aren’t happy here and we are going to be moving 4 hours away to Massachusetts. My husband has been offered a great job. 2 great jobs. Everyone on my side of the family is ok. My husband’s parents are not. They call us screaming, saying they want no contact with us because it hurts too much. She is saying we are stealing their grandchildren (I’m 22 weeks pregnant) she is saying my husband has no religious or family values, and that he is trading over his family for more money. Also, according to her, this is my entire fault and all my idea. She has told me I am selfish and putting myself before my kids.

This was my husband and I’s decision. It is only 4 more hours away than we are now. We are doing what is best for us, and we aren’t going to back down
With all the things she has said and done to me, I no longer consider myself apart of that family. Time can change things, but for now I am worried about my son and husband. Do you have any advice? I am writing her a letter.

My dad wants to move back to Massachusetts cause all of our family is back there. The reason we moved to California my freshman year was because my mom died and i think he couldn’t take it. Well it is my senior year. And he just came home and told me the medical clinic back in Massachusetts he used to work at is hiring physicians again and he just applied online. I asked why and he said going back there a couple of weeks ago for my aunts wedding made him miss the family. Well if he gets the job we will move over xmas break! Its my senior year and i wanted to graduated here and the colleges i want to go to are within driving distance of our apartment! I just started a part time job a couple of weeks ago. He forced me to move my freshman year and leave all my friends again. I did complain about being here but i am situated now!

What do i tell him!!!!!!!? He has caused me so much problems lately!
Ok im sorry i spelt convince wrong but i really need help.

First let me tell you i am already a mother of three children. I have a four year old boy and one year old twin girls. I am a nanny to my brother and sister(my father’s second marriage) who are 8 and 11 years old. Their mother is now a single parent who owns her own biz. She is taking a new job working with a company out of massachusetts. She will be traveling at least once or twice a month. They will be at my house with me 24/7 at least half the month if not more. I raise them like my own kids. She is currently paying me $525.00 a month after taxes and pays for pizza every friday night. She also contributes at least $200.00 a month towards the food bill. I don’t want to take advantage but, i want to be paid fair. Keep in mind they are my brother and sister!! I love being a mother and love having them around. I going to have a sit down with her soon and don’t know how much to ask for ! Does any one have any advice for me?
keep in mind she makes six figures and i raide her kids!
plus she gets 1,200.00 a month for child support from our father who is on SSI and is mentally unstable.

My cousin’s baby was sent to foster care because she is bi-polar and cannot take care of her baby. My sister would like to adopt but has a criminal record from 1999. It was a drug charge caused by her ex-boyfriend leaving his drugs in her hallway and the apartment was in her name so she was charged with it. He is no longer around, he went to jail and she never dealt with him again. She is a very stable person with a great job and home. Would she be able to do it. She lives in Massachusetts and I don’t know what their laws are. She really is a good person who loves children! I have 3 and she helps me with them sometimes and she loves them to pieces!

Well me and my bf broke up. He never helps out , and never did. He never comes to visit his son. Now him and his mom are acting crazy. They want to come take my son for the whole weekend !! I definitely don’t trust them! I mean they always threaten me and my family and stuff. Do i have to let him take him ? I live in massachusetts and I dont know what my rights are. ( we were never married) PLEASE HELP ME =]